When I moved to Dallas and met Jay I always told him I have 2 major fears: 1. Falling/Driving off the high 5 in Dallas and 2. Jay having a construction accident! How could I have ever known that my 2nd fear would become all to real! Today marks 4 years since Jay had his accident. I will NEVER forget that day. Did I get a phone call...no. Had people been trying to call me YES! Why did I not answer my phone? Well I had just gotten my first job in the teaching field and I wouldn't dare keep my ringer on! What did I get...I got my Principal walking briskly down the hall to tell me of the news. She was so very sweet and compassionate. She put her arms around me as we walked down the hall and said "Abbie you need to go back to your room and call your mom, Jay has been in a serious construction accident!" "NOOOOOO!" I finally talked to my mom and she said wait for me...DO NOT DRIVE TO THE HOSPITAL BY YOURSELF! Wait I did...it was the longest hour and a half of my life! By the time I got to the hospital everyone was already there except for the few people that had a long drive. During my time waiting I found out that my sweet brother was actually the person that got the first call about Jay. He is not only my brother, but he and Jay have been very good friends for as long as I can remember. Once we got to the hospital I found my way to the waiting and I remember everyone looking at me as I walked through the door. Up to this point I was in shock about it all and had not done much crying. My brother was facing the window when I got there and then he turned to look at me and I made my way to him and he gave me the biggest hug on earth and I just lost it. That was it, all the tears started flowing. Soon after the Dr came to talk to us. He said he is was in very critical condition and he most likely will not make it. Once up stairs I was called back to the Neuro ICU. Jay had just been wheeled in and they were messing with him and things were beeping and all sorts of crazy things. One of the nurses said Mrs Williams you have some decisions to make and forms to fill out.
What forms and decisions...I am only 26 and he is only 29 this is not happening!
"Mrs. Williams since you are married you have medical power of attorney and you are in charge of making ALL decision regarding your husband and his care." "Please sign here!" Not sure of what all I signed but I remember the question..."Do you want us to save your husband's life at all costs in the event he crashes?" UM HELL YES I DO!
"We have to be very honest...your husband is dying and you should think about making funeral arrangements!" "But sign here and we will do anything we can to save his life should he crash." "Geez, thanks for doing your job!"
Ok that is done, now back to the waiting room! The hospital had a hotel in it but no rooms were open that night, or the next night(I think day 3 we got a room)! We spent the night in the waiting room! No sleep! Waiting...then it was 3am and I got a little shake on my foot. The sweet nurse was so quiet so he wouldn't wake anyone else and he asked if I would like to see Jay. Of course I did and I just looked at him and cried and cried! Besides my hug earlier that was the first time I broke down and cried and I mean really cried. What I was looking at was something no one should ever see. Eyes black and blue and yellow and green and the size of golf balls, a broken arm, a belly cut open from breast bone to pubic bone with a medical vacuum sucking out blood (let's not forget this was due to the grade 4 liver laceration), a swollen head with a "bolt" sticking out of it , some tubes here and there, and a breathing tube!
Jay wake up, Jay wake up...This was day one 4 years ago!
Today, 4 years later I feel very blessed to have my husband by my side; in good times and bad! We are also blessed to have 2 of the most beautiful babies in the world! I have no pictures to post of Jay in his coma, I thought about taking pictures but those images are in my memory like a picture. What I do have a picture of is us on Jay's first outing from the rehab hospital and us our first wedding anniversary!
What forms and decisions...I am only 26 and he is only 29 this is not happening!
"Mrs. Williams since you are married you have medical power of attorney and you are in charge of making ALL decision regarding your husband and his care." "Please sign here!" Not sure of what all I signed but I remember the question..."Do you want us to save your husband's life at all costs in the event he crashes?" UM HELL YES I DO!
"We have to be very honest...your husband is dying and you should think about making funeral arrangements!" "But sign here and we will do anything we can to save his life should he crash." "Geez, thanks for doing your job!"
Ok that is done, now back to the waiting room! The hospital had a hotel in it but no rooms were open that night, or the next night(I think day 3 we got a room)! We spent the night in the waiting room! No sleep! Waiting...then it was 3am and I got a little shake on my foot. The sweet nurse was so quiet so he wouldn't wake anyone else and he asked if I would like to see Jay. Of course I did and I just looked at him and cried and cried! Besides my hug earlier that was the first time I broke down and cried and I mean really cried. What I was looking at was something no one should ever see. Eyes black and blue and yellow and green and the size of golf balls, a broken arm, a belly cut open from breast bone to pubic bone with a medical vacuum sucking out blood (let's not forget this was due to the grade 4 liver laceration), a swollen head with a "bolt" sticking out of it , some tubes here and there, and a breathing tube!
Jay wake up, Jay wake up...This was day one 4 years ago!
Today, 4 years later I feel very blessed to have my husband by my side; in good times and bad! We are also blessed to have 2 of the most beautiful babies in the world! I have no pictures to post of Jay in his coma, I thought about taking pictures but those images are in my memory like a picture. What I do have a picture of is us on Jay's first outing from the rehab hospital and us our first wedding anniversary!
1st outing from the rehab hospital
1st Wedding Anniversary
1st Wedding Anniversary
4 years later Thankful & Blessed
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